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My Best Friend's Boyfriend
Dear Lynn,
My best friend broke up with her boyfriend. Although she is all depressed about the break up; I am happy they are no longer together. Joe hit on me first and I was about to give in but one day we all met and my bff told me that she is interested in Joe. As a good friend I let them be together. However, I’ve been always jealous and I hated myself to let such a good man goes away. Two nights ago, Joe and I met at the Spurs Game; we hit it off pretty good and we ended up spending the night together. Joe and I decided to be a couple. I am torn between friendship and love. My bff is sad; she worries me but at the same time I am falling more and more for Joe. Do I risk my friendship with Gill or do I let Joe go to save our friendship. Or should I try to hook them up once again?
Dear Best Friend,
First off, do not try to get the two back together. If they are meant to be together, it has to be their doing, not yours. This whole situation is a mess. How much is your friendship with your best friend worth to you? I have to be a little controversial here. You and your friend were both interested in the same man and you backed out to let her have him but it did not work out between them and you moved in. It is your right to be with the man you love. Sit down with your friend and talk to her. By now, she is probably over her initial hurt of the break-up and will have a much clearer mind. Find out how she feels about the relationship now and tell her how you feel. Don’t tell her that you have been with her ex yet, but tell her that you are interested and you feel he is too. You are taking a gamble but if you don’t tell her, she is bound to find out and will feel betrayed.
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Make sure the guy is really interested in you before you tell your friend. Don't let your emotions get the best of you and then find out that he was only trying to score on both of you. You friend deserves to know the truth. She will be hurt. This is one thing you and she would have to deal with down the road. If he makes you happy, well; you cannot stop your happiness because of friendship. Once again decide which decision will be best for the three of you...
Gin