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Typical Army Wife
Dear Joey,
My boyfriend is a cheater, irresponsible, and immature. I don’t think he is ready to be a father. I don’t feel telling him that I am pregnant. I want to have an abortion but at the same time I am scared to do it because it is against my religion. What do I do?
Dear Donna,
Before I discuss the situation between you and your boyfriend, I like to talk to you about your pregnancy. You are pregnant and pregnancy is most of the time the most joyful time in a woman’s life. You have a lot to think about and you have to do what is best for you. You need to look inside yourself and make the decision of what to do about this pregnancy all by yourself and do what is best for you even if it goes against the teaching of your religion. However, let me tell you something about pregnancy and abortion. Right now you have a child growing in you. It is your child. It is your flesh and blood. You will forever be tied to this child, even if you have an abortion. You will always think of this child; you will wonder who it could have been and if it may have looked like you. You will see children in the future and you will think that the child you did not have could be that child’s age now. And you will wonder why you did not have the one you carry now.
Your child will always be with you, whether you have an abortion or not. It may seem like the thing to do right now, but you will think about this decision for the rest of your life even if you try to block it from your memory, it will haunt you forever.
Now to your boyfriend: A little more information about your boyfriend would have made my answer to your post easier. But I will do the best I can with the info I have. Men who cheat are a dime a dozen; unfortunately! Many times it is due to a lack of maturity. I will assume your boyfriend is in his 20’s early 30’s. If this is the case, he is still trying to figure out what he wants from life. Yes, there are some guys who will be faithful at any age, but many are not. But let’s define cheating. Cheating can be many things, from actual physical interaction to sneaking around behind the other person’s back. Even if nothing is going on, there is no reason to do things behind someone’s back, because eventually, there always will be something.
If you feel that he is not ready to be a father, so what! The question is, are you ready to be a mother? And from what I gather in your letter, you are. So, enjoy your new found situation, mama! You will be just fine. Maybe he will have a change of heart, but if he doesn’t, don’t cry over spilled milk. You will need this milk to feed the little one. A tip! Make sure you get his name on the birth certificate or you will not be able to get child support.
Joey
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